Thursday, April 3, 2014

The kinship care process is long, winding, and frustrating.

In August 2013 when my brother-in-law learned that a lady he'd been intimate with was pregnant, he realized he and the mother really needed to work on their lives and parenting skills before considering taking on a child.  He asked us if the child was his, if we'd be willing to care for the baby.  We immediately accepted.

There was a little boy born the end of January 2014.  His mother abandoned him at the hospital while his tiny body was withdrawing from pretty hard drugs.  He was alone in the hospital for nearly 3 weeks and then went home with a foster family.  The mother had named someone else as the father on the child's birth certificate, and we didn't know it, but they needed to declare the baby abandoned/motherless through the court in order to process my brother-in-law's DNA test, and for us to see the child.  That took over a month, until the first week of March.  

The second week of March, we learned my brother-in-law was the father.  We met the little guy on March 14th during a 2-hr visitation at children's services.   Our nursery is ready, there are new toys, clothes in all of the drawers, diapers prepped.  We had our fingerprints ran on 3/17, our home study on 3/18.  Everything was processed as of last week.  We've been anxiously waiting for the phone to ring since then. 

Surely, we thought he'd be here by now.  I called the social worker today - it will be at least another week before the little guy can come home.  She completed her paperwork and put it on her supervisor's desk last week.  Her supervisor didn't complete it before she went on vacation for the week...early next week the supervisor needs to sign off, then the director of the department needs to sign off before he can come to stay.

We're thankful he's with what seems to be a good foster family.  He has a young "sister" to take care of him, so he shouldn't be terribly shocked by C's hugs and kisses.  I'm mostly concerned that he'll be shocked because he's been in industrial childcare since he was 6 weeks old, and I'm worried he's not getting enough love.  I can't wait to get him home and cuddle him.

1 comment:

  1. I'm sure he will be u cuddle wuddle bug in no time!!!